Bismillah

Now, i see more and more of my friends changing their status from 'single' to 'in a relationship'. Somehow, i felt disturbed by this fact. For those who have been married or engaged, i can understand.. Even for those who have been engaged, there are boundaries that you have to follow. Engagement is not yet married..but it's those that are having couples without any akad bonding them that i'm worried about...

This is discussed many times before. It is a topic many would like to run away from. But i still need to address this. Couples are not allowed in our religion. Having a special girl/boy friend is very intoxicating.. I know because i used to feel that way too..

It is not okay to be coupled with someone who is not your mahram when you're not married. Even if you are planning to marry with one another one day, it is still not okay for you to meet that special person every day, talk on the phone all the time and so on... What's more to touch one another's hands... Allah promised retribution for every action a man makes. You might not get that on the spot you did something.

It applies too in this case. Because you decide to defy The Almighty when you are in a relationship, when you are married, Allah might punish you now.. Punishment now before the punishment in the hereafter. Punish you by not making you feel at ease whenever your spouse is away. Punish you by creating suspicions and bad perceptions between two married parties.

Maybe this is one cause for high divorced rate nowadays. Their marriage were not blessed by Allah, just because of the mistake they did in the past. Mistake for not having a halal relationship. That is sad news...

So to all of you out there, please think twice before you decide to have a relationship. We do not want to invite Allah's wrath, do we???

Wallahu a'lam