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Thursday, March 1, 2012

life is a matter of choices

Bismillah

These are the words that my former teacher used to repeat in class. I was not sure of what choices I had to make in life except where to go to after my 'O' levels. (That was back then)

The words came back to me now that i'm a legal working adult. Every decision I have to make is presented with a palate of choices. I have to consider very carefully before I make the choice. It's hard, but it is a process of adulthood that everyone has to go through.

And with adulthood also comes the responsibility of planning your own course of life. You just can't depend on your parents to make plans for you, to decide on your behalf. You can ask for their insight, but at the end, it's just you yourself.

And this is me, standing at a junction on the path of life. Hmm...

sentuhan kasih sayang

Bismillah


Nak cerita tentang perkara nie, aku bukanlah orang yang terbaik. Nak kata ada anak, tak nikah lagi. Anak buah pun tak ada. Paling-paling pun aku adalah anak tekak, anak mata, anak lutut (eh, lutut ada anak ke?)


Tapi seperti biasa, aku suka memerhati manusia. Aku suka perhatikan kanak-kanak. Dan aku suka perhatikan cara ibu dan ayah di luar sana melayan anak-anak mereka. Sambil-sambil tu, aku dapat juga tips-tips nak mengayat kanak-kanak.


Yang paling ketara yang ku nampak, bila anak-anak dilayan dengan kasih sayang, susah nak nampak mereka berkelakuan nakal atau throw tantrums. (menurut google translate, ia adalah luapan kemarahan) Bukan bermaksud bila ada kanak-kanak yang berbuat demikian, ibu ayahnya tidak melayan mereka dengan kasih sayang. It's not a generalisation. Tapi kebanyakan kanak-kanak akan mudah mendengar kata bila kita berlembut dengan mereka.


Kita kena panggil anak-anak nie dengan panggilan 'sayang', insyaAllah cairlah dia.


Nak kejut bangun solat Subuh ke, pergi sekolah ke, pun kena elok-elok panggil dia. Kalau sedari kecil asyik kena 'oi, oi, bangunlah' atau asyik kena jerit saja, sampai ke besar nanti susah nak kejutkan dia. (melalui pengalaman di rumah sendiri nie)


Kalau orang dewasa pun suka bila ditegur secara lembut, kanak-kanak apatah lagi kan? :)

Tuesday, February 28, 2012

husnul khotimah

Bismillah

I really like to watch crime series, especially CSI: Miami. I think I used to want to be a police officer when I was growing up but in the end, I was not physically fit to be one. Heh!

Anyway, my friend told me that we have to take lessons from everything we do, even from watching shows. And the biggest lesson i've learnt from watching the series is that I want to die in peace or rather have a 'husnul khotimah'.

From all the episodes in the series, there is none, not one at all where a person dies in honour. It's either they were drunk, they were involved in crimes and been shot dead, or they had been sleeping not with their legal partner the night before. Maybe they are not Muslims so they do not really care about their death. They, for one, do not believe in retribution. But for muslims, to die in such a way is to die in vain.

The series makes me realise that I have to be careful with all my actions and that the last thing I do before I close my eyes permanently will be something that is beneficial to me in the akhirah and in His blessings. Amiin~

communication breakdown

Bismillah

Communication is key. A wrong choice of words can be disastrous. A lack of it also proves the same.

Initially, I thought my friend decided to unfriend me because he hates me. I kept mum about it for almost a month, then I decided I could not take it anymore. I send him a message telling him that he can unfriend me from real life if he wants to, but let's not take it in the virtual world. He replied saying it was accidental and he has no reason not being my friend.

This goes to show that if I had approached him earlier, I wouldn't be in so much stress, having negative thoughts and such. Everything will clear up faster if only I had the courage to speak up.

Same goes to when i'm asking for permission from my boss and my murabbi. Sometimes I tend to wait until the last minute before I inform them about anything, which sometimes can cause misunderstanding. It's not that I don't want to but i'm scared to know the answer. (I'm such a scaredy-cat)

But to be a good muslimah, for one, I have to be responsible for my communication.

tarbiyyah Allah

Bismillah

Tarbiyyah Allah itu ada di mana-mana. Bagi orang yang peka imannya, dia pasti boleh mengetahui bahawa Allah sedang mengajarkannya suatu hikmah. Bagi mereka yang kurang peka pula, tarbiyyah Allah akan terlepas begitu sahaja. Sia-sia.

Setiap hari pulang daripada kerja, suatu perkara yang paling aku tidak suka ialah berpusu-pusu semasa menaiki  bas, apatah lagi harus berebut tempat dengan 'makcik-makcik indonesia'. Bukan nak mendiskriminasi mereka, tetapi hakikatnya mereka suka berbuat begitu. Sedangkan aku pula sudah terbiasa beratur sebelum menaiki bas.

Namun, jarang sekali aku bersyukur dan mengucap hamdalah apabila aku dapat menaiki bas walaupun keadaan bas begitu sesak. Maka Allah telah datangkan seorang hambaNya untuk mengajarku untuk bersyukur. Alhamdulillah. Allah masih sayangkan aku sehingga aku diberi peringatan tika ku alpa.

Banyak perkara sebenarnya yang Allah tunjukkan kepada kita agar kita mengambil pelajaran. Semoga kita diberi iman yang peka akan hikmahNya. Amiin~

budaya baik kita amalkan

Bismillah

Saya suka perhatikan manusia. Pelbagai perkara yang menarik yang boleh kita dapati daripada pemerhatian kita. Dan segala yang baik yang kita dapati, boleh kita jadikan teladan dan amalan dalam kehidupan kita nanti.

Contohnya, orang-orang Jepun tak malu untuk merendah hati. Seringkali terdengar mereka berkata 'Sila tunjuk ajar' apabila mereka datang ke tempat yang baru. Mereka berkata begitu bukan kerana mereka tidak tahu (mungkin la), tapi (mungkin juga) mereka sangat menghormati mereka yang lebih senior di situ.

Kalau menonton drama-drama Korea pula, mereka sangat menghormati orang yang lebih tua daripada mereka, hatta perbezaan umur setahun sahaja. Yang abang dipanggil hyung atau oppa, yang kakak dipanggil unnie atau noona. Nak panggil seseorang yang baru kenal sahaja pun bukan main-main 'oi, oi' atau sebut nama sahaja, tetapi harus sebut sekali nama keluarganya.

Semasa di China pula, aku mendapat layanan yang sangat baik daripada masyarakat di sana. Setiap kali masuk ke kedai, aku akan disapa dengan ucapan 'Huang yin guang lin' (ejaan salah kot) yang bermaksud selamat datang. Apabila hendak pulang, mereka akan mengucapkan selamat jalan dan datang lagi. Sebagai seorang pelanggan, ucapan sebegini amat bermakna. Biarpun barang di dalam kedai itu ala kadar, atau makanannya kurang sedap, asalkan perkhidmatan pelanggannya first-class, pelanggan pasti suka.

Mereka mungkin bukan orang Islam, tapi budaya yang mereka amalkan mirip dengan ajaran Islam. Siapa kata kita tidak boleh mengambil pelajaran daripada mereka, kan? :)

Tuesday, February 21, 2012

Are We This Foolish?

Bismillah

There lived in a town a very rich man, who was given every comfort and luxury by Allah. He had a servant who was slightly foolish. One day the rich man called him and presented him with a gift saying: “Keep this in a safe place until you find someone more foolish than yourself. When you do, give it to Him.”

The servant replied: “Very good, Sir!”

After some time, the rich man became very ill. Many doctors treated him but there was no sign of recovery. He finally lost hope and called for his servant and said to Him: “I am leaving now. If I have caused you any grief, please forgive me.”

Servant: “Sir, where are you going?”

Rich Man: “Where everyone has to go.”

Servant: “When wil you return?”

Rich Man: “I am going to a place from where there is no return.”

Servant: “I see…Have you made your preparations for your comfort there, sir?”

Rich Man: “No.”

Servant: “Sir, have you made arangements to safeguard yourself from heat and cold?”

Rich Man: “No.”

Servant: “What have you done about your food and drink, sir?”

RichMan: “Nothing.”

Hearing this, the servant laughed and said: “Sir, this is most surprising. In your temporary home, you have made all sorts of arrangements of joy and comfort; buildings and bungalows, gardens and parks, servants and maids, beautiful cars, shops, factories and all sorts of luxuries, but for your permanent home, you have made no preparations whatsoever.

Now tell me sir! Where will I find someone more foolish than you? Hence I am giving this gift to you.”

♥ Moral ♥ :We should take time out and review frequently whether our actions are solely for the life of this world or for the eternal life in the hereafter.



credits: Islamic Book via FB

Tuesday, February 14, 2012

tapisan Allah

Bismillah

Alhamdulillah, ahad lepas aku telah berpeluang pergi ke AKRAB, satu program baru dalam usrah. Tujuannya ialah mengumpulkan para murabbi dan menyediakan suatu platform bagi membincangkan isu-isu dalam halaqah dan penyelesaiannya serta suatu medan ilmu bagi para murabbi mempertingkatkan diri.

Pada mulanya, aku terasa sedikit malas nak pergi, apatah lagi aku harus ke sana bersendirian. Tapi untuk suatu perkara yang baik, kena paksa diri walaupun malas.

Alhamdulillah, banyak perkara yang aku dapati menerusi pengisian yang disampaikan. Walaupun ada tajuk yang berulang, tapi setiap penyampai pasti ada pendekatannya tersendiri dan seterusnya membuat penyampaiannya unik.

Apa yang menggembirakan lagi ialah dengan kehadiran para akhawat. Rasa riinnndduuuu yang amat sangat dengan mereka. Yalah, kan tidak semua program yang dianjurkan aku dapat turut serta, sebab tulah lama tak jumpa.

*oppss.. dah digress pula*

Suatu kata-kata daripada seorang ukhti membuat diri rasa sangat berharga.

Aku mengenali diriku siapa. Sejarahku yang bagaimana. HambaNya yang penuh dengan noda dan dosa. Tapi kasih sayang Allah itu tiada sempadan. DitarikNya aku perlahan-lahan untuk mendekatiNya. Diberi aku teman-teman yang memberi sokongan untuk terus tetapkan iman. Diberi aku peluang demi peluang untuk memperbaiki diri.

Daripada berjuta hambaNya, kami yang terpilih untuk menyusuri jalan dakwah.

Daripada orang Islam yang ramai di luar sana, kami yang terpilih menjadi murabbi.

Daripada hamba-hambaNya yang ditapis, akhirnya kami yang diberi taklif.

Sungguh rasa diri tak layak, tapi sangat bersyukur kerana diri masih dalam perhatian Allah.



Memang sangat berat beban yang ditanggung, tapi cukuplah jika dapat melihat wajah Allah s.w.t dan bertemu Rasulullah s.a.w di Syurga nanti sebagai motivasi~