debu-debu dosa

Bismillah

Alhamdulillah, dapat lagi bertemu dengan tahun yang baru. Allah masih beri kesempatan lagi untuk memperbetulkan kesilapan lama, Allah masih beri peluang untuk taubat. :')

Inilah masanya nak buat 'spring cleaning'.

Bersihkan hati yang penuh dengan bintik-bintik hitam.

Perbaiki akhlak yang seringkali menyakitkan dan mengguriskan hati dan perasaan orang lain.

Cuci minda, telinga, mata dan anggota badan lainnya yang bermaksiat.

Pendek kata, sucikan diri kembali dari debu-debu dosa. Memang payah dan memakan masa yang panjang. Tapi usaha itu perlu!

'jodoh' itu ketentuan Allah~

Bismillah

Sempena musim kahwin-kahwin nie, jiwa pun terikut-ikut nak rasa syok berkahwin. Hm, bukan berkahwin semata-mata, tapi untuk diri sendiri, sebenarnya seronok kerana akan terbina satu lagi baitulmuslim. Dari situ, akan lahir anak-anak pewaris ummah. ^^

Jodoh itu ketentuan Allah. Itulah ayat yang seringkali didengar apabila ditanya soalan, "Bila nak kahwin?" Memang benar jodoh itu ketentuan Allah, tapi kita juga kena ada usaha. Memetik kata-kata seorang penulis, Hilal Asyraf:

"Bercakap berkenaan Mazhab Tawakkal Buta, tiba-tiba hari ini pensyarah saya bercakap berkenaan Salah Faham Dalam Tawakkal. Amat menarik.

"Apa kaitan tongkat Musa dengan laut? Tiada kaitan. Tetapi Allah SWT mengarahkan Musa untuk mengetuk laut dengan tongkatnya, selepas itu barulah Allah belahkan laut itu untuk dia. Untuk apa sebenarnya tindakan itu diarah? Untuk mengajar manusia berusaha dalam bertawakkal. Bukan semata-mata berdoa dan menggantung harapan."

Terbaik Doktor. Nah, dalam bercinta pun sama ya anak-anak. Jadi janganlah ambil ajaran-ajaran yang ajar main pendam sahaja, luah pada Allah sahajalah, berdoa sahajalah itu. Berdoa, berdoa. Usaha kena ada. Itu yang Allah ajar kepada kita sebenarnya."

Tapi sebenarnya, saya tak mahu bercerita tentang jodoh yang ini.

Saya mahu bercerita tentang 'jodoh' bersama kawan-kawan.

Pernahkah kita terfikir, bahawa kita bertemu kawan itu juga dengan izinNya? Bayangkan diri kita di sekolah baru, di kawasan perumahan baru, tidak mengenali sesiapa... tentu kita akan rasa keseorangan dan kesunyian. Tapi dengan rahmat dan izin Allah, maka kita akan dipertemukan dengan seseorang, yang mulanya hanya seorang kawan biasa yang akhirnya bisa menjadi teman yang paling rapat.

Tapi kita juga perlu usaha. Tidak boleh menyombong diri. Kena ramah. Rajin menegur orang.

Sepertimana dalam hubungan pasangan suami isteri, kita perlu juga menjaga persahabatan kita. Kena sentiasa buat sesuatu yang boleh melestarikan hubungan kita, yang boleh menjadikan ia sentiasa mekar & segar...

peer pressure

Bismillah

This was among the common topics in talks back in my secondary school days. Teenagers usually face this situation and they don't know how to handle it and sometimes, they ended up being bad, because they mix with the bad company.

I am not facing this actually. It's past my time (does it really?)

Actually, I was reflecting on my actions today when I have a disagreement with my mother. I could not tell her that I do not favour some of her actions. I could not tell her that I was feeling disheartened. But I could tell my friends about my feelings. I could write about it and share it in my blog.

Why does it feel so difficult to share things with my mother? Why is it so easy for me to bare my feelings with my peers?

Is it because of the generation gap between us?

the power of du'a

Bismillah

A few days ago I was busy thinking how to tell my mother about a certain something. Tonight though, i'll be busy figuring out ways to approach my mother who is in a sulky mood. Huu~

Let's just rewind a bit.

My mother has always told me that I should not be involved in any romantic relationships while i'm still at school. The same goes when i first stepped into university life. For four years, i have to abstain myself. (alhamdulillah i have Allah to keep me at bay) Sure, my heart sometimes wandered to another's, but i'm able to not let the feelings take over my rationale, alhamdulillah.

But since i'm already out of school and university, this is a good time to find a partner to settle down with, especially since many of my peers are ending their single lives this year.

Alhamdulillah, a brother came and ask if it is possible for his parents to meet me. It's not an official request for marriage, but it gives me some hope. But then, i still have to face my mother. I was not sure how to address the situation because the topic is considered a close affair in my family. We have never discussed about this openly before, and to be the first one presenting the 'case' was quite nerve-wrecking. My friends advised me to seek help from Allah, so that whatever i'm going to say will be smooth and my mother's heart will soften.

I cannot deny that. Du'a really does wonders. It turned out that my mother started the conversation first and alhamdulillah, she was open to it (especially the part about having a new family member from overseas, insyaAllah)

Now, i'll be waiting (and preparing) for the day to meet his parents. And there'll be a special du'a for that occasion too.. ^^

p/s: and now, i'll pray that my mother will be okay tomorrow morning. it's really not a good start when your mother is not 'befriending' you (especially since you are going far away)

p/p/s: the power of du'a comes from the Divine Lord.. and my du'as were heard because He wills it.. :)